Loose Women Criticise Chrissy Tiegen's Baby Lossby Lauren Schaefer
On the 30th September, the devastating news that power couple Chrissy Tiegen and John Legend had lost their baby was posted onto social media via Chrissy's Instagram and Twitter page. She released a set of black and white photos from the hospital, including one of them holding their baby son, who they had named Jack.
Her caption began:
“We are shocked and in the kind of deep pain you only hear about, the kind of pain we've never felt before. We were never able to stop the bleeding and give our baby the fluids he needed, despite bags and bags of blood transfusions. It just wasn't enough.”
The 34-year-old American model was around four months pregnant and had posted in late September about complications with her placenta. The couple seemed in good spirits in their story updates, even in the days leading up to the loss when things started to go downhill. Chrissy was admitted into hospital with bleeding a few days before, and she had been on bed rest for a time prior to the admission. Chrissy went on to write she was sorry that they “couldn't give you the home you needed to survive. We will always love you.”
Critics, trolls and the next-door neighbour have had an opinion on the very public sharing of their tragic loss, including the UK’s Loose Women panel. But Chrissy and John (for the most part) have been furiously backed and supported by many of their fans, friends and family. The daytime talk show Loose Women decided that they would discuss their own thoughts and views on Chrissy's post on the show on the 1st October, coincidentally the first day of pregnancy and infant loss awareness month.
Carol McGiffin said that she felt “uncomfortable” as if she was “intruding in some way” by seeing their post. She also stated, “this is not something I should be witnessing”. But what else should Tiegen have done? When you are someone in the public eye with over 30 million followers, (Chrissy's Instagram page alone) isn't it better to share it your own way rather than have the tabloids make their own conclusions and rumours around your personal life? At least this way there are no secrets, only the real truth (which Chrissy is famous for) that has struck the hearts of millions around the world. With 1 in 4 pregnancies ending in miscarriage, stillbirth and infant loss, the only thing this post ‘shouldn't’ be doing is making anyone feel “uncomfortable”. Infant loss is sadly a big part of bringing new generations into this world, however awful that will be for anyone who has to go through it.
Nadia Sawalha seemed to be the most supportive out of the four, having gone through a miscarriage herself and speaking openly about it on air. However, she did say that upon reflection, “I wasn’t quite in my right mind” when sharing about her miscarriage at home. Jane Moore also hinted to having the same view that maybe they would come to regret the decision to post what they did so soon after and not being in the “right headspace”. What message does this send out to those viewers watching? How many watchers may have been influenced (or will be) to keep quiet on this subject because of these statements?
Loose Women has been slated on Twitter by many viewers, saying they were “in absolute rage”, and that “the show needs to fuck off”. Another Tweeter angrily called them “hideous hags”. There are rumours that there may be an investigation due to many Ofcom complaints surrounding the comments made on the show.
The Loose Women cast did express their sympathies and take note of the fact that many people online were thanking the celebrity couple for posting so openly, but I think they could have gone the extra mile to try to both support the grieving couple as well as reassure their viewers that infant loss doesn’t have to be a private matter if you don’t want it to be. If you choose to have any kind of online presence, aren’t you morally obligated to post the truths, however distressing they may be?
It was a poor decision on Loose Women’s part, on the first day of infant loss awareness month, to try and discuss this, and share anything but their understanding and sympathies. No matter how each of the Loose Women team feels towards Chrissy and John’s posts, you cannot deny that it is their pregnancy, their baby and their platform. All they wanted was to do Jack justice in sharing their love and loss, there is nothing uncomfortable about it. From the looks of over half a million online comments, most Instagram users feel the same way.
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